How To Deal With HATE?
AHHH, we're back to this topic again...
It's that time of the year again, the once in a blue moon storm of hate that floods my ask.fm. It's funny how people haven't matured a single bit. Anyways, besides receiving hate I've also been receiving questions from people who were wondering how I deal with hate.
your long awaited answer...
jk
OK, IN ALL SERIOUSNESS...
People filled with negativity will always be around or near you. It's something you can't avoid but it's also something you can deal with. Me a year ago would tell you to tell them to FUCK OFF AND ROT IN HELL etc but I realised how immature that was. These negative people who hate on you and constantly bash about you are really just sitting there with popcorn in their hands waiting for you to screw up. Once you lash out and say something stupid, "ding ding" they win and they get the upper hand. So, how can you deal with it? You're pissed af and all you wanna do is commit murder but no...
Calm yourself down. Hesitate for a bit. Look at it from a different perspective and ask yourself what you have done to deserve the hate you've received. Ask yourself if you've done anything offensive to anyone and if you have then apologise. If you haven't and they're just casually bashing about you for no apparent reason then here's what you should know...
"Those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind."
These people are just casually calling you names, looking down on you and wanting you dead. They're technically cyber bullies who think that by hiding behind that computer screen of theirs, they're not sinning. They just casually hate on people because of how they are or what they do and they think it's okay to just channel all that negativity. They think it's okay to put someone down just because it's not in person. And you know what, I want you to deal with it. I want you to ask yourself, do these people matter to you? Do their opinions really affect you? That one person so full of hate does not represent what the whole world thinks of you so HONESTLY, DOES THAT ONE PERSON'S OPINION MATTER? Is it worth beating yourself up for? Is it worth changing how you really are for someone WHO DOESN'T MATTER? It could be a computer virus for all you know. So before getting so engrossed in all of it, think about how little it matters to you. You're worth more than someone's petty "opinion" and you should know that. You need to know that it's okay to be however and whatever you want to be and that there will always be people who just cannot and would not accept it. So what? There will always be those who love you just the way you are. You should only take note from those who matter and never from those who are insignificant. So listen up, next time you receive something negative over the internet you either ignore & remove it or tell them how glad you are to be who you are and nothing they say will break you because there is nothing wrong with being exactly who you are. Just keep doing what you do best and focus on where you plan to be. I honestly hope this helps because I want whoever that might take interest in this topic to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Turn that frown upside down :) x
-Zoey